Just like any parent, I’m worried
about my children’s education. In our city, we have almost as many
private schools as public and the debate on where to send your child
begins en utero. We bought a house specifically for the elementary
school. So, yeah, I believe school is important. Insert being raised
in a family of educators and the pressure is on. My kids have to
thrive in school.
Currently, we send our little men to a
wonderful daycare. They have a curriculum that is wonderful and the
staff is amazing. But Isaiah (and then Bennett, because big brother
is always to be the example) will sometimes wake up and say, “I
don’t wanna go to school today.” Brad and I are quick to explain
and remind him of how much he likes school and usually by the time we
arrive at the door he’s singing the praises of his class, teachers,
and playtime.
This bothered me for quite a while.
Things like, “Is he going to hate school, not put forth any effort,
fail, have to deal with failure, feel like a failure, decide he
couldn’t possibly make anything of himself in this world, and never
amount to anything?” You can see that the slope is ever so
slippery! We parents take a simple statement and make it into a life
choice that will affect every potential aspect of our child’s
future.
The other day, a new understanding (and
I think a better one) was divinely revealed to me. This revelation
makes more sense then the doomsday prophesy I was basing off my young
son’s statement. It occurred to me that maybe he didn’t want to
go to school because he has fun with his family. He likes to be and
do things with us!
We have our days when Brad and I are
exhausted and a movie is our savior, but a lot of times, we are out
doing things, going to the aquarium, museums, and birthday parties.
My kids and I traveled to Michigan and they get to run around with
sparklers, see farm animals, “drive” semis, go to the splash
park, and swim in Gigi’s pool. On the weekends, we take the boys
out to eat and we try to get together with friends as much as
possible. Just writing all of this makes me kind of wish I didn’t
have to go to work either!
You see, I am a tad proud my children
are enjoying their childhood this much! Home should be a place they
want to be and come back to. When I taught 4th and 5th
grade, I would notice the children who didn’t have a home life. The
closer we got to the weekend, the more problems they had, and the
more they acted out. They didn’t want to face the weekend because
it might mean no food for the next two days, an abusive family member
who they had to be subject to 24/7, or it may have meant just being
left alone to take care of their three little siblings. Those
children wanted to stay in school because it was safe, there was
food, and there were adults who cared.
So I have shifted my views on this
whole thing. And I’m not going to worry when he doesn’t want to
go to school, because the truth is, it’s not that he doesn’t want
to go to school, it’s that he just doesn’t want to miss an
opportunity to make another memory. This is wonderful! In this life
where so much emphasis is put on “the daily grind,” I want my
children to have experiences that give them a broader respect for the
world around them. I want them to know that their success is not
determined by how well they stay still and how many A’s their
report card has. I want them to have experiences that teach them that
people are more important than things, and money buys a whole lot of
problems, so use it wisely. These are things that may be touched upon
inside the school walls, but these are most certainly things that
have been entrusted to me as a parent. So, while we are still going
to be responsible parents and send our child out to have his own
experiences, I can’t help but be a little proud that he likes
spending time with his family more than anything else!
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